Wednesday, December 26, 2012
Other than than, life is pretty uninteresting. My kids make me laugh every day (and yell too...let's not pretend that doesn't happen), Audrey says something new daily, Nate learns something new daily, and Phil teaches me something new daily. My life is challenging right now, but certainly very full!! I don't want to give the appearance that things are super awesome and my life is perfect because that's unrealistic! But I am happy with the way things are going and am grateful to be living my life!
Wednesday, November 28, 2012
Thursday, November 22, 2012
Tonight I went to Barnes and Noble with my friend Whitney to work on our math project together. She thought I was going straight to her house first and I thought we were meeting there so I got there and had to kill some time so I thought I'd read a breastfeeding book in hopes of some weaning tips. I picked up "The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding" and went straight for the weaning section. I have been actively wanting to wean for over 6 months now. I originally thought "one year and if it's going well then maybe 18 months, but that's my stopping point". Well 18 months came and went and then I said "well, no longer than 2 years". A lady I know did a thesis on breastfeeding for her bachelors degree and discovered a study that said that in order for breastfeeding to really be effective in preventing breast cancer you have to do it for 2 years. So I justified doing it till at least 2 years because it made sense. Well now I'm one month over the two year mark and still don't know what the crap I'm doing! I've talked to other moms and tried to get tips. Most people who have weaned an older child said it was mostly up to the child not them. They talk about how their kids just stopped being interested. Well I'm far from that! Thats part of why I'm having such a hard time! She wants it constantly! Many people said to try to offer juice instead or food. Well I'll feed her and as soon as she's eaten a ton she still wants it! It seems like every time I sit down she takes the opportunity to come over and drive me crazy for it. Once she gets it in her head I canNOT change her mind! I try to be firm and tell her no and she never gives up. So I just do it. I know that she will leave me alone and go back to what she's doing if I just take 6 minutes (I timed it) of my time to get it over with.
So back to the point. I hoped the book would give me some good ideas on how to wean her, but instead it convinced me to not give up until she's ready. It talked about how each kid may actually need it until anywhere between age 2-7! I was shocked! It talked about the biological reasons why they need it and all these benefits that I do actually love. I'm almost a little mad at the book for making me want to keep doing it, but it reminded me of all the wonderful things breastfeeding is there for. It's an instant pain reliever (for the child), its an immune booster, it's a great tool to bargain with "if we can leave the park now you can have milk!" (you'd be surprised how well that one works!!!). The book also talked about how we quit well before the baby is ready in our culture. Everyone has their personal reasons for wanting to quit early and I'm not here to judge that (after all I only breast fed Nate for 8 months). But one big factor for wanting to quit (the biggest factor) is the fear of being judged by others. Breastfeeding opens up so much room for judgement! You're judged if you don't do it long enough and judged if you do it too long. But it was really sweet, my relief society president came over the other day and Audrey asked for it. I was really embarrassed and explained that because I work from home I've had a harder time getting her to wean and she goes "maybe she just needs it". It made me feel really good!
So now here I am still not knowing what to do and putting it off longer. I guess my hope I'm writing this is for people to understand where I'm coming from. After all we all are just doing what we think is best for our individual children. I just wish it was easier and that I had more support from my family in particular, but what can you do?
Monday, November 5, 2012
I'm exercising my right as an American...to not vote. Yep. I said it. Get out your pitchforks and come at me. But trust me, this is an informed decision, not just negligence. There are many reasons why:
- I don't buy into the propaganda that I have to vote in order to be a good citizen. That's all it is, propaganda.
- It doesn't feel like a right to me to have to choose between two choices. Yeah yeah there are other choices, but not really. As a mom I give my kids two choices as a way to guide them into making the decisions I really want them to make. To control them in a way. I'm not going to participate in this control. I don't believe that either choices are going to really do what's best for this country so I'm not going to choose the one I think is going to a slightly less terrible job.
- No matter how much denial I can be in, my vote doesn't even make the slightest difference in Utah. Not even a little itty bitty bit. Local elections? Definitely. And I'll admit I dropped the ball on that one. I have too much going on in my life right now to learn about the candidates. I hope that you all make good choices in that department and am willing to suffer the consequences of not voting local.
- I don't trust the government at all. I'm skeptical of every little thing they do. I really appreciate the benefits of a free education (college, not public schools), and programs like the fire department etc. But I don't believe any of them are really in it for our best interest. They can be bought out of any issue. For example, the only reason you have to buy booster seats for your kids is because of car seat company lobbyists. Crash tests don't prove they're any safer past a certain point.
- Government is way too big now, which is exactly the opposite of what the founding fathers wanted for us and I don't believe that any of them are actually going to make a change in that department. They all say that they will make government smaller, but they're in over their heads. It's just not gonna happen till it gets so big that it collapses. (This is more of a statement than a reason I'm not voting).
Friday, November 2, 2012
Unfortunately the hurricane hit our loved ones for real. The only family Phil has that doesn't live in New Jersey is his mom and his brother (ok he has two cousins that live in New England. Close enough). So everyone else was affected in some way or another. They all lost power at some point, had trees fall in their yards, and worst of all, his dad's apartment complex was covered in 1 foot of mud, then condemned and he now has 8 days to find a new place and move. Luckily, of all his family members, Neal and Teresa were the only ones displaced.
I'm truly overwhelmed with the compassion that JetBlue has for it's crew members! Not only with the people with damaged property in NY, but even the help they have provided us to allow Phil to fly out to New Jersey this week to help his dad. I have a lot of gratitude and am really proud to work for such an amazing company! When I eventually become a nurse, I will always fly JetBlue! And I encourage everyone else too. They really are the best airline!!!!
Anyway, just to give some perspective, here are some pictures to show how close to home this hurricane really it us:
Friday, October 12, 2012
At 2 Audrey:
- Is the queen of the TV. She always chooses the shows and doesn't let anyone else.
- Loves to snuggle with me.
- Will eat anything I am eating. Today she stole three of my sushi rolls (veggie sushi) and ate half my soup.
- Still loves mommy milk (I'm seriously torn, I want to wean, but it's SO convenient and nice at the same time because it is the cure all for everything).
- Loves to dance, but doesn't dance much in dance class. Just depends on her mood. I don't push her at all because I don't want her to hate it. I want it to be a voluntary thing. So we just go and sit in the back and watch and she'll run across the room a few times with her class then come back and sit in my lap. I don't have to pay for the classes because Phil mixes all the music for the studio so I figure we'll just use this year to get her used to the idea :D
- Talks a LOT! I can't believe I was ever worried about her speech.
- Makes me laugh every day.
- Gives the best squeezy hugs ever!
- Knows all her body parts.
- Can count to 3...at least.
- Knows most of her colors.
- Takes off her own diaper lots and sits on the potty, but has never gone.
- Is one inch short of 3 ft. Which is exactly the same height Nate was at 2 years old! She has always been a little taller than Nate's respective age was. I guess they're evening out.
Monday, September 17, 2012
I started school a few weeks ago. I'm taking 3 online classes (Interpersonal Communication, Exploring Art, and Math 1010) and one regular class (Math 1020). It's a little strange to take 2 math classes especially because I hate math so much, but I had to do it this way to get things done in the time that I wanted to. My online math class is actually really great. I like this setting SOOOOO much more than a classroom because I can do it all at my own pace. I can't stand to sit there and listen to the teacher talk about the most boring subject in the world. Instead I look at the examples in the book, or go to www.khanacademy.com and watch the videos. I really like the way the guy on that website teaches and he has such a pleasant voice. The class takes WAY less time than going to a physical class ever would. Plus I'm taking it with my bestfriend/life buddy (haha still love that term) so we teach each other how to do certain things and also motivate each other to learn the material correctly and get good grades on the homework/quizzes. It's so much better than my medical math class. He moves at a really slow pace, people ask stupid questions, and it's just super annoying. Thinking about it (totally coincidental), this is exactly why we want to home school. I took a math class in college that I had to physically go to. Completely failed it because I hated going and skipped it a lot. Never understood anything from the class at all. Now that I'm doing it at my own pace I feel like I'm understanding it WAAAAAY more. Not to mention you are forced to actually do the homework instead of copying down the answers from the back of the book and it tells you instantly whether you did it right or not. I want to integrate a mixture of home school and traditional school into my kids lives somehow because I do want them to excel in college, but I truly and honestly believe that they can learn way more by doing home school and I'll always stand by that.
I haven't talked about home school much lately because of how rude people can get about it. I have absolutely no idea why people give a crap, but for some reason, they do. But if you ever feel the urge to judge another parent remember this exact statement: they are trying to do the very best for their kids with all the knowledge they have! Got it? I know I have fallen into the judgmental trap. Dangit I still constantly find myself in that stupid trap. Because parenting is the absolute most difficult thing you will ever have to do ever ever ever and everyone tries to do an amazing job, and at some point they fail at something whether it's inadvertent or knowingly. Take me for example: I would LOVE it if I never yelled at my kids, but I fail all the time! It's so easy to point out other's mistakes. But we all make them or will make them. So with homeschooling, I want to do it because I have studied a lot about it and truly feel like it is the best thing for my kids. If I end up with awkward kids, fine, whatever. They'll be smart happy awkward kids! haha! That's my goal. Happiness. Whatever it takes to make my kids reach that goal is what I will do. Nothing I ever do will be the exact right thing to do...just trying to do what is most right to me. Anyway, Whitney and I have already started to home school. We get them together and teach them things. Nate has been really into math lately. He wants to do math problems like mommy does and he even writes the numbers. He's absolutely fantastic at reading and does it all the time everywhere we go. And did I push him to do those things? Nope. It's just what he wanted to do. Because he wanted to do it, he's done better than if I would have forced him to. Audrey has been counting a lot lately and trying to learn colors. I haven't spent as much time trying to teach her those things as I did with Nate, but that tends to happen with the second more unfortunately. I've been working on it a ton lately though now that she is talking up a storm.
Anyway Phil's mom moved here this week. She has been looking for a house which is exhausting, but she likes to babysit a lot so that makes things nice! Once she finds a house things will get better. There's not a lot out there right now. We have realized how absolutely lucky we were to get our house when we did. Kind of crazy!
Ok I'm getting tired now and I'm afraid none of this is coherent so I will update again soon :D
Saturday, August 11, 2012
A life buddy is similar to a life partner or life companion, but without the implications that it is a romantic relationship. So in order to make it non-sexual, the term buddy is therefore used.
A life buddy is someone who is literally going through the exact same things as you in nearly every way imaginable. So you get to go through life experiencing the same things at the same time.
In order to be a life buddy, you need to have at least 3 major parts of your life be the same. Any more than that just makes that life buddy that much more special.
Some major things:
-same desired career
-your children are the same age
-you are the same age (though this is not necessary, it can make a difference if you have kids the same age for example. If you are a teen mom, then that means you went through that together, if you're an advanced maternal age, then that means you did that together, etc. It depends on the other life events)
-respective husbands/wives are the same/similar
-similar family life (eg, if you both have a crazy mother-in-law, a crazy sister, gay brother, lots of nieces/nephews, republican parents, divorced parents, drug problems...you get the point. I'm not saying I have all of these, but if they coincide with your life buddy and it's a major part of your life, it counts)
-doing the same major things at the same time (like buying a house, graduating from college)
Your list can be whatever it needs to be that would qualify that person to be your life buddy.
A life buddy is more than just a friend, they're a sibling without the pressure/obligations, they're like a spouse, but without the pressure/obligations/sex, they're a mentor, a teacher, a student, a helpful person that improves your life.
Life buddies are hard to come by. If you're lucky enough to have come across one in your life, thank your lucky stars and praise your God above! Because coming across one requires a lot of coincidence and chance. I hope that everyone can find a life buddy to make their life fun and worthwhile! :D
Friday, August 10, 2012
We decided to drive. The flights were too full right now and it's a lot easier to drive anyway. We would have had to take connecting flights and it wouldn't have been worth the stress. The drive really wasn't too bad. We like road trips. We have a sentence game we play where we go back and forth and can only say one word at a time and make really bizarre sentences. It's way fun!
We left late Thursday night and got there early Friday morning. Slept all morning then went swimming. Audrey goes CRAZY in swimming pools. Holy crap! She was jumping out of my arm to get in the pool and she didn't want to just sit on the stairs. She wanted to be out in the middle of the pool. She would try to swim by herself if I'd let her! But it was reeeeeally cold and I couldn't just jump right in. The temperature in CA is alarmingly cold right now (in Nor Cal at least). Colder than here. It was really weird.
The next day we went to Armstrong Woods because Phil has never been to a redwood forest. I almost said he'd never seen a redwood tree, but his grandma took one from California and planted it in their yard years and years ago. Phil grew up in her house after she passed away so he grew up with the only redwood tree in New Jersey growing in his yard. The only other one being at his grandma's house (it was his great grandma that planted the tree).