Monday, July 8, 2013

Summer Playdates/Homeschool adventures.

Mondays and Thursdays are quickly becoming my favorite days of the week! They're the homeschooling play group days! I feel more energized and excited for the future being around these amazing ladies! It's funny because most homeschooling moms that I've come across are also pro home birth/natural birth. My best friend Whitney and I have come to conclude that when you question the hospital, it becomes naturally easy to question public education. And truthfully, none of us have any problems with people that choose differently, we're just all happy to have each other to bounce our crazy ideas off of!

Unschooling is somewhat of a natural result of attachment parenting. Most of the moms cosleep, breastfeed into toddlerhood, don't discipline, etc and the thing that is so refreshing is the way they respect their kids' opinions even if they are unpleasant. One of the moms brought a 9 year old who outwardly complained that she was bored. Instead of saying "that's rude, don't say that" she just respected her opinion and said they would go home soon. That's such a beautiful concept to me! I love being around people like that. People I know are going to respect my kids too.

This evening we also went for a walk with my neighbor. Her kids are bilingual English and Spanish. I can't even tell you how happy it makes me for my kids to be around that. Tonight we spent about an hour on google translate learning different Spanish words. I love that they are also pro homeschooling and live only a two minute walk away. We went and saw the "Caballos". I tried to pick up on some of the beautiful words her kids were saying. I can understand Spanish more than I can speak it so it's fun to have that exposure as well. Gives me motivation to teach/learn it myself. So Gisselle, if you're reading this, come speak lots of Spanish around my kids ;)

Every summer I always have big plans to spend time outside and do fun things, but end up staying inside because of the heat. But because of this group and having Whitney, I've really pushed myself to never say no and to do what my kids want to do. When my neighbor asked if I wanted to go for a walk, my first instinct was to make up an excuse because I was tired from being out and about all day (Whitney and I went to lunch after the play date and the bounce house), but I decided that I don't want to be that person anymore and I was so glad I said yes. Having all these homeschooling families around is helping me understand why I felt so strongly that this was the house we needed to be in.

Sunday, July 7, 2013

Someone else.

I don't even know where to start. I've erased this post at least ten times now. I just need to write and pretend like everyone in my world secretly reads my blog, but doesn't comment because they don't really give a crap what I do. That would be ideal.

Here's the thing. No matter how many times I can say this and how sincerely I mean it, no one believes me, but I do NOT judge you. I do not care in the slightest if people don't choose what I choose. Why? Because it's SO freaking hard to go against the mainstream. SO HARD! It's not something I want to do because I think it will be fun. It's because I research a lot and truly try to do what is the most logical to me. So I can't be me. I can't be me because I don't like to argue. I hate it. I really suck at debating. It's sad when you realize that being the person that you are just make people want to argue with you. I don't have to do anything. I just want to be myself. And this is who I am:

1-I am unschooling my kids. I don't like public school and I don't want to subject my kids to it. I think the idea of them missing out on the socialization in the school system is BS and everyone in my social homeschooling group agrees.

2-I love home birth (you all know that). I will never choose a hospital unless I have to. I don't trust that doctors are making decisions in my best interest 100% of the time.

3-I still breastfeed Audrey a couple times a day. This one is the hardest for me and I lie to people and say that I don't because I'm embarrassed, but I truly believe she needs it. I hate doing it and try to talk her out of it, but it has so many more benefits. My own sister told me I should stop and I told her I have. I died a little when I said that. It's such a stupid thing to judge someone about and I absolutely do NOT understand why people care.

4-I do not discipline my kids. This one is really difficult for me because Nate has ADHD (which I am renaming ECB for energetic creative brain because I don't believe it is a disorder, just a difference that makes him less convenient for me, but it's not freaking about me!!) and people think that he acts the way he does because of my lack of discipline, but I think it's pretty obvious that Audrey came from the same parenting style (actually less discipline than with Nate because I didn't know how to handle him at first) and does not act out. I have MANY reasons for this that I don't want to list right now.

5-I don't eat meat. Big freaking deal, I don't care if you do.

6-I am a voluntarist/libertarian. Not a democrat, not a republican. I do not believe in the initiation of the use of force, I follow the non-aggression principal, and exercise my right to vote by not voting at all.

7-None of my siblings take me seriously because they are all older than me so I avoid them as much as possible.

Ah that felt good. Now let's just all move on and live our lives without judging each other. I do not care what you do, I only govern myself.